You think I am so nice, you think I am so sweet. Well I have news for you, most of it is true. Apart from my one downfall, I am a victim of the green monster….Jealousy. Although it’s only in relationships (not the ‘they have something I don’t' kind)…I am deeply ashamed of it. I once stormed out of a restaurant because my boyfriend chatted to the waitress (I think to ask her for a good table)… I am like a bull seeing red, with regards to pretty women who come near my man. I am supposed to be so cool, so smart, so arty…..and instead I am just a little evil Gremlin. On these occasions when I loose it, I wish the ground would swallow me whole. |
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"Our real blessings often appear to us in the shape of pains, losses and disappointments, but let us have patience and we soon shall see them in their proper figures."
No Pressure darling. Simply curiosity!– Joseph Addison
Good to hear!
I wil follow the process on your blog;-)
I am on it babe.
I need to heal from inside out.
iro, that's a big question, sometimes yes and sometimes less so.
I just wish I liked myself more when I am with a guy. When I am alone I have to like myself I have no choice.....hehe
thank you olivia I feel your warmth and understanding.
and all is true and right.
by the way the man has to understand also to let his girl feel loved and like you say let her feel she's the one, also to others not just when they are alone.
love is not a game.
I totally drank Iro's words and she is 100% right.
I am also a very jealous person, jumping and loosing it for no reasons since I got married to someone who really loves me and would never harm me.
But remnants from the past, old injuries and betrayal left their traces.
I started an alternative therapy with an amazing woman (Sarit Salai-Kadosh) and I understood that behind the jealousy lies only fear, pain and sadness.
Everytime I feel jealous, I try to hold myself and come back to rationality, I take a piece of paper and start to write what are the real emotions hiding behind the jealousy: fear of betrayal, of abandon, pain of past injuries, feeling put aside, not worthy, etc... Then at least I don't react like a wounded beast, and I can talk about it with open heart with myself, face my truth, and then speak about it with my man.
I also explained him that some girls will always try to be queens of the harem, and that he is the one that always have to show that he has already chosen his queen!
Love,
Olivia
I have had my key on some byron katie for some time.....I shall order some in.
I do love your stolen words....always good to take the best....even if it'sother peoples words.....
ahhhhhhhhhhaaaaaaa my ideal man
you know I love your thoughts of the day at your blog, and I can't believe you wrote to me such a long answer and full of so much wisdom.
In replay I have to say that my mother cheated on both her husbands for many years (one being my father of course) and well let's say I never got over it......
I am trying to be honest and open about it, and I know it's my thing more then it is a real threat to me.
I am just one person trying to work it all out....
your comment was great.
ahhhhaaaaaaaaaaaa yes the cute kind....I can't remember what they are called mogis or something (see photo).....
no one is perfect but we try....
my saying is let him go while he's only in his boxer shorts....
he'll have to come back for his pants....
lol
your lucky your not the jealous type...
תקשיבי, לך ולי יש את אותה הבעיה.... אם מישהו היה אפילומסתכל על החברה שלי הייתי רודף אחריו ברחוב עם מנצ'טה.
Must admit that I ever never seen a green Gremlin. If you were a Gremlin you would have been a cute one. And you know sometimes we just loose it. I once had a flirtty ass bf that couldn't stop fleerting with every skirt around hoim, oh boy I wasnt nice at those time. Today i'm more cool about it, but no one is perfect.
theres the saying that goes:
"if you love him, let him go..
if he comes back, you had him all along"
(או משהו דומה..)
אבל מה אני יודעת..
אני לא מהסוג הקנאי אז אולי כדאי שאני אשתוק
:-)
ok that all sounded very bad....not good to be honest?
I don't want to be in this place where no one gets attached....sounds cold.
I would like to trust myself more.
some of what you said was quite touching and made me consider your words carefully even shall I say convinced me
but the whole for one night thing.....no no no.
ok so I shall strive to be perfect....
heaven help the man should do something....lol
ok so a) love myself b) have self confidence c) accept yourself
d) make him understand your the best e) plenty of fish in the sea f) don't tell him when your jealous......
so much to do and learn.
Thanks
הקנאה... הדבר הכי נורא... משום מה לא חליתי בזה... אין לי את זה, ואיך מצליחים להיפטר מהדבר הנורא הזה? ביטחון עצמי!
ריכשי לך ביטחון עצמי, תאהבי את עצמך! קבלי את עצמך במלוא מובן המילה, כולל הכל! את הדברים הטובים, את הפחות טובים וגם את הרעים. רגע שתעשי זאת, תיגמלי מעניין הקנאה!
ברגע שתביני שהגבר שלך זכה בך, שהגבר שלך מקבל את הטוב ביותר, תביני שאין סיבה לקנא!
תקלפי מעלייך את כל החששות להיות לבד, גם אם הוא ילך, so what? ההפסד כולו שלו! ואת רק תרוויחי את עצמך! ואיך האמהות היו אומרות לנו פעם? יש הרבה דגים בים...
הלך אחד יבוא אחר!
אל תקנאי, וטיפ קטן עבורך מהסתכלות על מה שעובר על גבר שלא מקנאים לו, גם אם את מתפוצצת מבפנים מקנאה, שימרי זאת לעצמך, אל תתני לו את העונג! שיתפוצץ הוא!
Thank you....I think the book I need will have to be in English. To read about such
subjects in hebrew will put me to sleep....lol
יש כאן כתבה בנושא: http://www.ynet.co.il/articles/0,7340,L-3310405,00.html
בכתבה מוזכר הספר "צילה של האהבה: קנאה רומנטית" של הפסיכולוגית איילה מלאך-פיינס. ספר מצויין בנושא. אני ממליץ בחום.
אני לא קנאי, אשתי לשעבר היתה קנאית בבסיס. זה בהחלט גרם לקשיים - אני לא הבנתי ממה היא עושה עניין...
yes yes yipee...
subject number 103 for when we finally meet to talk about
well, i used to be
but i kept it all inside...
now, i feel better about it
we'll talk about it later on
you too? Oh dear we're a fine bunch....
I thought you would never be the jealous type.....
your so cool
beautiful art
thanx for saying all this things
you are honest
and it helps me
i love you
oren you and tami have words....
but as for me....thank you....
I don't think I will stop feeling jealous.....that there's a guy who will make me loose my madness, for after all it has little to do with him.....
I am very happy with my present guy even if I get jealous......from nothing....
Only when I drink or smoke, the rest of the time I am the cute one (you basturd)
1. אני לא כ"כ קונה את הקטע האבולוציוני. אני לא זוכר מתי היה לי הדחף לחבוט בארנב עם נבוט בשביל לאכול. דברים השתנו, זה הקטע באבולוציה.
2. אפי בטוח תמצא, ומגיע לה
hmmm, did you mean this ?
maybe here.....as I can see from people's reactions...
but in England it's looked down on....the english tend to avoid all show of emotions. So I guess I am thinking inside my box....
but this post is helping me to feel less bad about myself.....
תגידי..
למה את מחמירה עם עצמך כל כך? זה רגש טבעי...
I am a total drama queen (watch all the men run for the hills).....I come from a family of artists....what can you expect...
I know I love it. My pleasure dear.
אורן,
אל תיקח את זה באופן אישי !!
א. באמת מדובר בהכללה, וכדרכה של הכללה היא גסה ועושה עוול לפרטים שכלולים בה.
ב. אבולוציונית, גברים בנויים אחרת, תפקידם בטבע הוא שונה, ולו הבחירה היתה בידם לא בטוח שהיו מעדיפים חיים מונוגמיים.
ג. ועדיין, כמו שכתבתי לאפי בהמשך, אני מאמינה שכאשר היא תמצא את האחד שבאמת אוהב אותה ומעריך אותה כפי שהיא, רוב הסיכויים שלא תהיה לה שום סיבה להיות בלחץ ולקנא.
Good. Drama Queens scare the crap out of me.
I'm sure there are others like me
Absolutely great song!!
Thanks
from your words to my action hopefully.....
I have mastered red hot, now I think I can try cool
Hell, yeah! I'ts a natural reaction
But it also depends how jealousy is expressed.
I say always keep cool
girls sending their phone numbers to my man....ooooooooooooooohhhhh drives me crazy.
but yes let's not go into details its too embaressing.
glad you know how I feel.
אני ממש יודעת על מה את מדברת, מביך לפרט, אבל התכתבויות וירטואליות הן בהחלט גורם לקינאה ואנחנו לא לבד.
ok I will wait paitently....
for now can I give you a song
oren, do men get jealous too?
You don't have to be good to anybody, just be yourself
When the one who really appriciates the self in you will arrive, it will work out for both of you
If it doesn't - he's not supposed to be the one
הכללה גסה ומרושעת
I don't even see it as despret I just have a fuse missing.
So what your saying is be good to them......I will try that...lol
Don't be that desperate
The one who'll love you deeply - will be faithful
Men have another feature: they depend on the woman whe's good for them
oh michal if only you knew....
I get jealous by every little thing....even virtual things that have no meaning anyway...
in short madness is all around me.
But here you are saying it's because we have feelings....good take....
damage control for the future.
OMG really.....and there I was trusting the lying cheating basturds!
no come on some of them are totally innocent.
I am so ALERT!
I once found my boyfriend talking with his ex at his work, it was all very innocent (she was pregnant from onther guy and had to talk to someone)....
well I didn't know all that.
I walked in, saw them, ran out, he ran after me, I threw his keys at him, crying and hailed a cab....
it was like a french film.
In short I calmed down after flowers and 50 phone calls...
I am totally nuts....
but he said it was very funny.
את לא לבד ואני לא חושבת שמצאו לזה תרופה.
אנחנו נמשיך להיות ירוקות מקנאה, אבל לפחות יש לנו רגשות ואנחנו מודעות לתחושות שלנו, זה כבר משהו.
love it when you get angry
oh thank god.
I thought I was the only one. I hate it...
why couldn't I just be perfect?
גם אני.
אבל זה בגלל שאי אפשר להיות מושלמות כל הזמן