I recently went out on a "first" date with a guy, who when I told him I have cats, immediately became totally immersed in the subject of cat hair.
It was a little disappointing that he seemed to find that subject much more interesting than the woman sitting across from him, but better to find out quickly than to get involved with someone who is TOTALLY unsuitable.
Listen, I like cats and also would rather not have cat hair on my clothing and furniture, but I would not turn it into the pivotal conversation of the evening.
Then he made his second mistake in asking me if I would shut them out of the bedroom when he was in bed with me.
First date....
Just met you...
Why are you already in bed with me? (in your head).
Well, shortest date in my dating history. 15 minutes. He was in such a hurry to get home and into his "hairless" bed, that he was barely civil. He just stood up and started for the door, assuming that I was following him. Just showed that if he was not going to get anything out of the evening, it was not even worth his while to have a conversation and perhaps just enjoy an evening with someone who is not compatible with you in a relationship, but just might be someone you would want to know.
All my friends immediately asked, "did he at least pay for the coffee?". The answer is "yes", but this was prior to sitting down and discovering that I have (yech!) cats. Who knows what would have been if he had not paid in advance.
He could not understand why I was not being more flexible - which in his mind meant I should be willing to get rid of my cats.
Morals of the Story: 1) I should get the cat question asked and out of the way before I leave the house. 2) I should tell my cats to stop shedding so that I will have a better love life.
Aaaahhhhh.... the joys of dating!
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